Green Bean and Mary went to a rollerskating birthday party. Neither of us wanted to chase Curly Jones around a roller skating rink so I stayed home with him. I could see him running out onto the rink, ignoring everyone else, and really getting hurt.
After a lunch of grilled cheese and Cool Whip for dessert (this is not your child) I put Curly Jones "down for a nap". This means turning the light off, singing a song, locking the door, and hoping he falls asleep. If he gets upset or is still not asleep after 30-45 minutes we let him out.
I imagine the idea of putting a child in a locked room for nap and at night sounds pretty monstrous. It might even be illegal? If so, hopefully law enforcement has better things to do. A few years ago I would have agreed such a thing made me a hideous parent. I probably would have denied I would ever do such a thing. We did not do such things with Green Bean. We repeatedly took him back to bed when it was time for a nap. We had a baby gate but did not lock the door at night. But Curly Jones is a different child. There are huge safety concerns during the night. He might leave his bedroom and could go any number of places. He can climb over the counter and get into the kitchen if you're not watching. He might even have an idea of how to get the door to the garage open but doesn't want to really go through it in case we catch him. So in the middle of the night, with plenty of time, without us watching, there is no way of knowing what he might try or what he is already capable of. If he got out of the house, he is determined to make it to the neighbor's pool. He got out the front door once and ran straight to their gate.